1. You can be right over your limits
Of course, you can cut down to the chase and set a clear line. Something like "I know that you mean well / that you are kidding / that we have already spoken like that, but I don't want to talk about my weight / my clothes size / my changed appearance / etc. anymore. It hurts / brings me back embarrassed / I feel confident / uncomfortable / etc. "
2. You can change the subject completely
Evasive conversations may seem a little rude, but it's also an effective way to make it clear that you don't want to get involved. For example, you can ask the person or group of people if they have seen a new movie or TV show, if they want to see a picture of your pet, or what they are most excited about in the coming year.
3. You can reassure others that you are not focusing on their body
Sometimes body and diet conversations can manifest themselves in people talking about themselves. For example someone who feels like they have gained / lost weight / lost muscle or complains that they are lazy / unmotivated because they did not start or follow a new fitness plan or diet. You can respond by saying something like, “I hear you! I am sorry for feeling this way. I love / respect / admire / care for you, no matter how you look / how much you exercise / whether you stick to this diet or not. "
4. You can compliment people for reasons other than weight loss
Whether or not body embarrassment or dieting talks are directed at you, another person, or another person, moving the conversation towards a happier, more positive topic is a good move. Even if you only meet through video calls, it can be an easy option to compliment people for the work they put into the Christmas party. For example, you can bring up a specific aspect of someone's decoration or thank someone for the time or creativity they put into a baked good or card that you received in the mail. You can also celebrate non-body achievements or trips by people such as B. in science, at work or in personal relationships.
5. You can remind people that they are not your personal doctor
Even when people speak to you from a place of concern, love, or simply because it has become a norm in your dynamic, the reality is that no one knows more about your health than you. Even if your health looks different, no one (except maybe your doctor, nutritionist, trainer, etc.) knows what is best for your body and mind. And it's okay to tell people that you don't value their feedback. Say something like, “Oh, I'm working with a nutritionist on a plan, so I don't need any further suggestions right now.” Or, “I'm happy with the way things are for me right now. Don't worry, offering other ideas “can work well here.